tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post1262496756184017451..comments2023-04-02T20:23:04.954-04:00Comments on Hurting On The Sidelines: One Heck of a Bobmshell"numb_was_better"http://www.blogger.com/profile/07901211504065991788noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post-55307781955375278232009-05-14T01:38:00.000-04:002009-05-14T01:38:00.000-04:00Both of your responses are normal for someone who ...Both of your responses are normal for someone who has gone through such a loss. It hasn't been too long since your baby became your angel.<br /><br />The recovery has yet to run its full course, and when it does, both of you will be better equipped to deal with the issue of getting pregnant again.<br /><br />People avoid talking about things when it's still too painful to bring up, and it always will be. But one day hopefully, the hurt will get to the point where both of you will be able to discuss things.<br /><br />In the meantime, stay strong for each other... If you must beat around the bush, then so be it. Relationships do change... and both of you need time. You will pull through for each other, but only if at least one of you is willing to be the one to hold on & keep faith.<br /><br />My prayers are with you, and with all parents going through such losses.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post-44264292213800537762009-04-17T11:28:00.000-04:002009-04-17T11:28:00.000-04:00I know exactly what you mean. Going through that ...I know exactly what you mean. Going through that too.Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03081973190512198022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post-80388567510756324052009-04-15T00:42:00.000-04:002009-04-15T00:42:00.000-04:00Sigh. I'm scared too. I want one so bad, and am ...Sigh. I'm scared too. I want one so bad, and am TERRIFIED that we could loose another baby...look how many do. And I'm scared that my husband (being so stubborn and all) will refuse to try again...then what? And how do you convince someone to have a baby if they REALLY don't want too? But, I agree with Michelle...if you refuse to try...you can't fail, and rock bottom isn't so far away at that point.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04602706939281669017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post-86350641759831550812009-04-14T23:53:00.000-04:002009-04-14T23:53:00.000-04:00The longing of being a parent especially after a l...The longing of being a parent especially after a loss is so painful. I too say that I want to have another child and then the fear strikes. It is not an easy decision. I've said things to see where my husband is at because he is not ready to try again because he wants to be reassured that this won't happen again. Since I can't promise that, I only pray that we can once again agree to try.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16071927168876473000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post-23211951086671265112009-04-14T20:41:00.000-04:002009-04-14T20:41:00.000-04:00Try to just keep holding space for her feelings, a...Try to just keep holding space for her feelings, and for yours. They go up and down, it seems, and we can't always meet in the middle. And don't forget to tell her how you're feeling. Sometimes, we women say things, and we're just testing the waters, so to speak. We want to prompt him, find out what he's thinking and feeling... hard, sometimes, to ask directly. So we go the roundabout way... ;)Inannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03696628144350223948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5500917524867826895.post-4083986884744545972009-04-14T20:07:00.000-04:002009-04-14T20:07:00.000-04:00I go through this all the time. I am up and down. ...I go through this all the time. I am up and down. I want a baby so bad yet I am terrified to get pregnant again and go through my 5th loss. I can sometimes really believe I do not want children and then the next day want them. I think it is part of the journey...at least for me it has been. Maybe she just is so afraid of wanting children that she is telling (and convincingly) herself that she does not want them. This way if it does not happen then she does not have far to fall.<br /><br />I know what a roller coaster this loss thing is and I know how hard it is for the both of you. The one thing that is definite is that communication is the key...which I guess is the same for a lot of things.<br /><br />I hope things get better for you both soon!<br /><br />This WHOLE IF THING REALLY SUCKS!!!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03661220372372737455noreply@blogger.com